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I have lost everything I had in my life many times, and had it all come back to me later with greater alignment, greater abundance, and greater ease...
These cycles of life have taught me a lot about life.
There have been times in my life when any opportunity I touched would turn to gold and flourish in prosperity.
During those times I've often had people reflect to me that I have the "Midas touch" and the capacity to poop in abundance.
There have also been times when the opposite has happened...
When nothing I did worked and the harder I tried to "make things work" the worse things became... sometimes driving me to utter exhaustion, despair, and depletion... for years.
During those times, much to my silent internal struggle and infuriation, those same people who praised me would say "What happened? Did you lose your magic touch?"
Maybe you can relate to this frustration...
I call this "being productive, but out of tune."
How do you be "in tune?"
There's a counter-intuitive wisdom and science going on here.
You cannot create the solution, you can only become a system capable of receiving the answer, which means you've got to stop focusing, slow down, and start receiving.
Simply put, there's an easier and more miraculous thing trying to happen for you, you just have to get out of the way.
Easy to say, hard to do.
This is a learned skill.
I've recently had a friend and neighbor come to me who was really struggling, he was a computer programmer looking for a job and was trying really hard to solve his situation... to no avail.
Application by application was falling through, people weren't calling him back after interviews, months were going by and he was beginning to feel desperate.
On top of that, his health was failing, he had an infection in his foot that wasn't healing and he wasn't sleeping well.
I invited him over for tea, and when we sat down together the level of his stress was so thick I could almost feel the air in my lungs contracting in response...
As we talked he kept on spinning in circles wondering what he was doing wrong and if I had any advice for what he could do differently.
I tried to get through to him, but he wasn't listening...
He kept on assuring me he just needed to keep his nose down to the grindstone, keep firing away applications, and something would eventually show up.
I disagreed with him wholeheartedly and explained to him my position: that the problem wasn't in what he was doing, but how we was going aobut doing it...
The energetic state he was in was encoding all of his actions with desperation.
You cannot get abundance from stress, desperation, and lack, it won't matter what you do, your actions will only amplify the state you're in.
I explained to him what he had to do, that I'd been in this situation before and that he simply had to double down on relaxation, transmuting his feelings, and enjoying his life and that everything would work out, including his health... if only he made his wellness the number one priority.
He said he was dreaming of going for a hike but his situation was so serious the even just the thought of taking a day off from job hunting was filling him with guilt and dread.
Eventually, I explained to him, through my stories, exactly what I'm about to write here, and that he didn't need to take a day off but an entire week.
With much resistance, he sat with the advice and decided to take an entire week off to recalibrate, hike, play, and enjoy his life.
A week later I bumped into him as I was walking home by the river, he had a beaming smile on his face.
"I took your advice, and you wouldn't believe what happened!"
He told me the perfect job showed up that paid more money than he earned in his previous job working back home.
* Later on he was offered a dream position in this company that supported all his needs.
What happened? He stepped into into receivership.
He was willing to BE first before DOING, so then he was able to HAVE what he was trying to get.
Most people get this completely backward, they try to DO first, so they can HAVE, and then finally BE.
What this sounds like:
"First I'll get the money/job, then I'll be secure, and then I'll relax and be well."
"First I'll get the relationship, then I will feel loved, and then I'll be whole and happy."
"First I'll work my ass off to heal myself, taking every supplement/extreme cleanse and exercise routine possible, then I'll see and feel the evidence, and then I will be healthy."
DO -> HAVE -> BE, doesn't work.
Life just doesn't work that way.
When I was in my 20s, I thought life worked like that, this was the idea I had in my mind...
You have your goals and priorities, and you do whatever it takes to line them up in a row in whatever way makes sense and whack away at tasks to climb the ladder of success.
Of course... this doesn't work.
Even if it does seem to "work", it requires a tremendous amount of effort and while it always looks great on paper in reality it looks more like this picture:
An endless juggling show, with a monkey right at the bottom waiting to pop the balloon, which always eventually pops, sending everything crashing down.
You might "make it", get the money, the relationship, or whatever destination you were imagining, but either something will always be falling apart or a part of you will be quietly suffering...
- "The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau
If you live long enough, either the divorce counts or your capacity of self reflection will bring you to wonder if something else is possible.
After years of my own trails and tribulations, bit by bit I noticed that I as convinced my stubborn mind to let go of the grip I had on trying to control life, one breath, one moment at a time...
BE -> DO -> HAVE is the ultimate way to go.
You prioritize your wellness first, make that your only priority, and everything eventually falls into place.
Not "a priority", THE priority.
You can't skimp on this, it's the absolute key.
Before I knew this, like my friend from the above story, I was always looking for "the hack," the magic pill that would give me the answers to my questions and problems.
I felt there was something I didn't know or some profound spiritual wisdom that I had yet not attained that would finally give me the answers I was looking for.
Allow me to save you 20 years and tell you what that magic hack is.
SLEEP.
Get as much rest as possible.
Cut away distractions, and addictions, and stop doing dumb things that waste your time (Netflix, Doom scrolling on social media, YouTube scrolling, and TV.)
This also means cutting off toxic relationships.
Don't do the above once, these things pop up like weeds in a garden, you've got to be constantly tending to your garden.
Do what you enjoy and what gives your life meaning.
Journal every day to reflect on your life (This will help uncover even more meaning and hidden passions)
Follow your YESes and your PASSIONS.
Unsubscribe from social media and subscribe to the repetitive acts that bring happiness into your life.
...and most importantly... learn to become a better receiver.
Wellness is a frequency, it is a state when you're in full receivership, enjoying your life, it's contagious, and it breeds more of itself by default.
Most people are terrible receivers.
Being a good receiver doesn't just mean you're willing to receive money and gifts from others, it means being willing to receive life, fully.
Most people are more afraid of life than death.
By default, most of us are conditioned for yearning for a future, dreaming of the past, and resisting the present moment.
This creates a cocktail of toxins that create contraction in the body, stress, disease, and cut you off from higher-level solutions that are available for you.
It is impossible to create abundance from lack, you simply cannot get to expansion from contraction.
It is impossible to see the solution to your challenges from a state of consciousness that created the problem in the first place.
Shift your consciousness first, then the rest follows.
The key to this is the body and entering full receivership.
This means consciously surrendering your resistance to what is, and being willing to embrace and feel everything and allow your heart and body to transmute those feelings.
This is a deep process and would go beyond the scope of this article to dive into it, but it is one I want to touch on here as it has absolutely changed my life and is connected to the premise of this whole topic of "the "Midas touch"
Your heart is actually like a super powerful quantum computer with it's own programming language that has the ability to transmute the negative states, loops, and patterns you find yourself in and convert them into peace and openness so that higher guidance can pour into your life.
(Watch this video called "METAMORPHOSIS" where I explain this process in rich detail.)
The simplest way to do this is to just take 10 conscious breaths, become aware of what you are feeling, become aware of your shoulders, and drop them.
As you breathe, welcome in everything that you're feeling, literally welcome and invite the fear, focus on your heart, and keep breathing.
As you welcome what is, with each breath, in the beginning, you might notice nothing, or you might notice even more intensity... this doesn't mean it's not working... it is... it's just bringing up more to be welcomed.
Keep welcoming it, keep breathing, keep relaxing your shoulders, and keep welcoming.
Do this practice every moment, for the rest of your life, and you'll open a whole new dimension in your life.
You cannot have wellness with resistance, it's impossible.
Before wellness of any kind can appear, first there must be receivership.
When you enter wellness, you are in a frequency match for the answers and the solutions.
The important thing to know is that this is a learned process.
You don't get good with this overnight.
You might practice a little bit of this and get some results, only to be flung back into your habits and loops and patterns.
When you find yourself there, pat yourself on the back, give yourself a hug, appreciate you created the same thing again, take some deep breaths, receive it, and keep going 🙂
This isn't something you just realize and ponder over once and expect life to magically pop into alignment.
DO -> HAVE -> BE has likely been ingrained in you from the time you were born, it's been programmed into you and is being piped through every media outlet, billboard, and ad you see every day.
Go easy on yourself. It's okay to make mistakes, and it's okay to slow down.
You will notice as you slow down, things go fast.
BE -> DO -> HAVE is actually faster.
The mind doesn't get it, it might say "I don't want to be, I want to have right now, being is boring. It's not true.
I've experienced absolute miracles unfolding in my life when I prioritize my being and wellness:
Opportunities and connections I couldn't even imagine have fallen into my lap.
Life-changing ideas that have altered my destiny in positive ways have emerged, friendships and lovers have shown up right when I needed them the most and support from unknown places has come in the most amazing ways.
This is a learned bodily wisdom, you are literally re-wiring yourself to be a different type of human being through this process, one that is in tune with the higher laws of creation.
It means learning to really listen... deeply... and learning to trust life and being willing to be in the discomfort of the unknown.
It means learning to be aware of your state at all times, and when you come to awareness of your contraction, to do whatever it takes to come back to your center.
It takes a lot of compassion for yourself, patience, and devotion to yourself... to every moment.
It takes time to unlearn years of bad habits, but believe me, it's worth it.
BE -> DO-> HAVE will take care of you like nothing else, and it is the secret behind the midas touch.
You can only create what you are embodying.
Kacper